The thoughts in your head aren't yours

Someone else’s programming. Your parents’ fears. Phrases from childhood. Voices of exes.

Parasitic thoughts always move from outside in. Real ones – from inside out. And to tell them apart, you first need to feel them out.

Create a note, write “What I Think” at the top, and start writing.

At first you’ll get junk. “Why am I doing this.” “This is stupid.” “What do I even write.” That’s the top layer – foam. Just keep diving.

The mind quiets down and you enter the flow. What was spinning in the background and draining your energy is now in plain sight.

By thinking, you don’t solve problems – by thinking, you create them.

The anxiety in your head turns into three lines of text. The pressure drops.

I once sat down and poured out everything that had been sloshing around in my head for months. A couple of lines remained. And they were about what I actually want.

Ideas are born. You connect dots that used to seem random. You see patterns.

Until you’ve written your own story – it’s being written for you. By parents. By society. By anyone who feels like it.

The little that remains after all the foam – that’s you.