Drama

The Karpman Drama Triangle is a trap you want to steer clear of. Three roles: the Victim, the Persecutor, and the Rescuer. The triangle keeps pulling more people in.

• Victim: This is the person who feels oppressed, helpless, or in some kind of distress. They often seek sympathy and support from others, thus luring people in.

• Persecutor: This role is taken on by someone who criticizes, blames, or attacks the Victim. They may appear aggressive or domineering.

• Rescuer: The Rescuer attempts to help or protect the Victim from the Persecutor. Or thinks that is helping. They often do so with the intention of feeling needed or superior.

This dynamic cycles. Individuals switch roles. A Victim might become a Persecutor or Rescuer when the situation changes.

Recognize this pattern. It poisons relationships. As usual, telling the truth helps.

You cannot continue to victimize someone else just because you yourself were a victim once—there has to be a limit

Edward Said

Avoid the Drama Triangle at all costs. Don’t play any of the three roles.

You can only help those who help themselves. But first — help yourself. Good. Now — what do you do with the life that’s left?