Children

Yourself, your pair, your children — fix those three and you have a family. That’s the part that lives inside you.

Family is training wheels. It’s where a person learns to balance before riding off on their own.

And parenting needs less than you think. Minimum parenting. Don’t grind yourself down trying to engineer the perfect kid — they’ll turn out like you anyway, so the real work is on you.

Don’t raise your kids — they’ll turn out like you regardless. Work on yourself. — Stoyanov

Berne wrote a whole book on it: children replaying the parents’ script. You don’t hand them a script by lecturing — you hand it to them by being.

So aim low and aim right. You’ve done your job if:

1. They can support themselves.
2. They aren’t a social deviant.
3. They don’t blame you for everything that’s wrong with their life.

And one more thing: don’t let them make you dislike them. Relax. You and the kids will be just fine.

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